Mindfulness and HIV
The other day I remembered that I was HIV Positive. I am not sure how long I had forgotten this.
I am not sure that I completely forgot. What I do know is that I didn't like the feeling of forgetting.
This may sound odd to many of you. It may seem like a dream come true to forget about living with HIV even if only for a while. Some of you may even think that I am a little crazy. Well your wrong I am a lot crazy! But that is not the what I came to write about.
Let me tell you a little about what happened. I was at work feeling a little nauseous . I
was wondering why I was feeling that way(I thought of five reasons other than HIV or my Meds) and thinking that I just wasn't sick.It was then that it suddenly hit me out of the blue: I have HIV! I have a disease. There is a reason for the way I feel. It was actually a bit of a relief. I must be doing alright if I forgot.
Then I started thinking that if I had forgotten when I take medication daily then the others around me must forget also.I am not sure if this is the case but again what I did know is that I didn't like this.
I decided a year ago when I was diagnosed that I was going to make something positive come out of this . I was going to live as an example that HIV is closer to people than they think; It wasn't something that they only hear about in Public Service Announcements.
It was in their neighborhoods, Not Just third world countries. It was as close as the person standing right next to them at work. I wanted them to have a face and a name to put with the disease, Not just labels like "HIGH RISK GROUP". It is in this way that I believe that the fight against stigma will be won.
What had bothered me so much is that if I can forget about HIV/AIDS ,Then why do I expect others to think about it? Why do I expect others to care for more than Thirty seconds during commercial breaks? It is only through awareness of this disease that is running rampant throughout the world that we are able to get the money necessary to prevent, treat and hopefully one day cure this disease. Awareness! And I had forgotten about it even with it swimming through my veins and hiding out in my cells.
So how do I walk the fine line between obsessing about HIV and keeping awareness at the forefront of my mind? I think the answer to that is different for each of us. For myself I believe that this falls into the category of Mindfulness.

Mindfulness is a Buddhist term that means just what it says: Being mindful.
This is a practice of being aware of your body and mind,thoughts and speech,actions and inaction's. This practice is not about changing the way you think or removing or adding thoughts. It is simply being aware and acknowledging what is going on physically and mentally. If you are angry, simply be aware of the fact that you are angry. If you are happy, be aware that you are happy. There are many aspects to mindfulness that encompass every aspect of life. This is the simplest form and explanation of this practice.
How does this help me to walk the line between obsession and Awareness? I realize that I am HIV positive. When I am feeling well I am mindful that I am feeling well and HIV positive. When I am feeling Ill I am Mindful that I am feeling Ill and HIV positive. Sounds really simplistic doesn't it? It isn't something that happens over night. It takes many a day of thinking about HIV more than some of us are willing to do. I said thinking not worrying. I have to keep HIV in my mind even when I am feeling well. Not just when I am feeling bad. HIV does not take a break it is only through my diligence that I keep healthy. This doesn't stop when I am feeling well.
This mindfulness helps me to make decisions that are appropriate for my health and well being all the time.
Now how does this help me to keep bringing awareness about HIV to those around me? It helps me to remember that I have some difference to those around me. It helps me to know when I feel different. It mindfulness helps me to choose the right words and actions to help those around me to understand how HIV affects them and the world. It helps me to live my life in a way that can help others that are struggling with this disease. Mindfulness is the light that shows me the right course when things are the darkest.
Don't let HIV run your life. Be mindful of how it affects you and others. If you are scared, know that you are scared. If you are feeling lonely, know that you are feeling lonely. It is only when we know how we feel that we can start to change those feelings into positive feelings such as courage,compassion,and community.





